Coming to college is hands down the best time of your life. You have freedom that you never have seen or felt before. Over the next four years, how you spend your time reflects your experience of college; so don’t waste it.
Here at Ashland, Convo is the epicenter of an endless buffet and enough ice cream to give you a brain freeze for years to come. You have your own space and the ability to rearrange it into the man cave to rival all man caves. You will meet people that will help you get past endless nights of binge eating, finals, and nights where you just miss home. All of these experiences are amazing but do not take them lightly.
Here I am, looking at the finish line towards graduation and freaking out, slightly. Unlike my freshman self, I now realize how short four years can fly by. One thing I was never told coming into freshman year was that friends could be the worst thing you could ever acquire in college.
Yes, I said it; friends are a terrible idea when you come to college. Don’t, for the love of God; don’t ever have friends at college. Yes, you heard it right. Friends in college bring a lot more issues than needed. They are the people you trust with your life, your stories, and most of all, you trust them with letting them into your heart.
You begin to hang out with people who have similar interests and have conversations that build friendships. You hang out on a regular basis, may that be eating lunch together every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday after class or signing them up for your intramural basketball team. The last straw is when you begin to hangout on weekends and when you don’t have class together. It is a mutual interaction with laughter and happiness. Looks are deceiving.
Orientation doesn’t tell you how hard it is going to be to say goodbye to these people once your education is finished. It happens every year with upperclassmen that you become friends with till you yourself are at graduation. Waiting in your seat to grab that diploma you have worked so hard for.
I’m not sure about you but having the memories that will last me a lifetime sounds like a cop out. Yes, it is a blast to hang out with these people but what happens after graduation? You are forced to retreat to memories of the individuals you met, those who made you happy, and the people you love.
Memories do last a lifetime. I know when I leave and go onto the next stage in my life, I will look back at the times I helped my friends with break ups, painted murals with them, played volleyball so long that we all go sunburned and most of all, all the times we explored Ashland like Lewis and Clark did with the west.
We walk through life and experience the joys of it while also experiencing pains we never thought were possible. Looking back, I discovered this truth my sophomore year where I learned about a man named Socrates. Sitting in my ethics class, Socrates stated that life’s constant changes create pain that is inevitable.
I can’t, neither do I want to imagine when the last goodbye comes from me and my friends but that day is approaching fast. Fighting such forces will make it that much more unbearable. Friends have this uncanny ability to get inside us and show us parts of love we never knew existed. While I wish I didn’t have to face the pain of leaving my friends, I am glad that I know I have experienced the kind of love that can transcend any amount of pain.
In the end, we are going to make friends; we always do. As Dr. Seuss, would tell me, “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”